How to be a Flirt in 5 Easy Steps

I am a flirt.

I recently came to this magnificent realisation. It's not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, I think it's a good thing! I work at a place full of hot, young men (*cough* snowboarders *cough*) and often find myself chatting up the staff and even the customers. I think it's a refreshing change to the grumpy, harassed girl behind the bar/counter you often see. Flirting gives me more confidence and I've often received compliments on my friendliness and "great sense of humour" - a customer's words, not mine. So, without further ado, here is Magdalena's Guide to Being a Flirt!

1. Chin up, boobs out, stomach in!
Remember those natty photos you Nanna used to take of you and your family standing in front of some tourist destination (or in my case, the back garden), looking like you had poles up your derriere and a rather cheesy grin? Well, she did have a point. Stand tall and proud, baby. Put your shoulders back (not too far, though, look relaxed), suck your stomach in and stick your boobs out. Be careful, though, that you don't look like some desperate harlot with your boobs practically nudging other people in the face. You're aiming to look confident, yet relaxed and assured of yourself. If you feel neither confident nor relaxed and self assurance is yet to come...fake it! Soon it'll come naturally and the world will be your ballpark.

2. Be Friendly!
No one likes a stuck up princess. Leave the attitude at home and strike up a conversation. Don't be shy to talk to the guy at the bus stop or the person who makes your coffee every morning. A girl (or boy ;-) ) who is daring enough to start a conversation always scores major brownie points! There's only one way to get to know someone, so be brave and make the first move. It doesn't have to be a "Hi, I think you're really sexy!", which might be a bit creepy, but a simple "Hey what's the snow like tonight?" or "How was your weekend?" should do the trick.

3. Ask people for their name, or give yours!
Every day I talk to the guy who makes my coffee. We have wonderful conversations, we are both baristas, so have long-winded talks about various roasters and blends and the merits of trim milk versus full cream...ahem... but we also delve into very random topics, such as Napoleon and nuclear weapons. After several weeks of this, I realised that I don't know his name, nor does he know mine. Silly that such a basic thing should be overlooked. So next time I see him, I plan on saying "Can I please have a large, trim cappuccino, two sugars and my name is Magdalena."
If you're too scared to ask for some one's name (don't laugh, I usually am, though I'm working through my odd fear), introduce yourself and get bonus points for confidence.

4. Add a Little Charm!
Yes, my friends, you too can charm anyone to submission. Maybe it's just in my character but charming people comes easily to me. Basically, be yourself, be a little candid but still a little mysterious. Meet the person's eyes, with a little smile on your face, compliment them subtly and learn to be empathetic. Learn to read people and their moods and adjust your conversation accordingly. And please, don't forget your manners!

5. Smile!
Repeat after me: "Smile, smile, smile!"

"A smile is contagious, it's passed from me to you,
as soon as one is witnessed, it's so hard not to do,
to be partie to a smile is privilege indeed,
a smile can make things better, it's sometimes all you need,
and if you smile at everyone, you'll find out that it's true,
that soon enough your smile will come right back to you."

I can't emphasise this enough! A smile makes you instantly more attractive, approachable, interesting, friendly and desirable. Learn to smile coyly or mysteriously and flirt the pants off the next person you see...uh...maybe not literally out of their pants, but you know what I mean.

So there you are, good luck my pretties and happy flirting!

xx, Magdalena.

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